My wife Ruth wrote this poem for my inner child

The narcissistic wound runs so deep,
I see the wounded child and I sit and weep,
I weep for the pain disappointment and fear,
That shows in his face every time he is near,
I know not what to do and say,
He is so full of abandonment sorrow present each day,
I feel the child of history has taken control,
Running rampant within the holes of his soul,
There is nothing in his cupboards,
They are cold and bare,
No resources to draw on to fix what’s not there,
What does he need from outside and within?
When will he feel whole inside his own skin?
My need to rescue, comfort and hold,
Is pulling me strongly, I must not fold,
I want to step in and cover his wounds,
Yet I know I cannot fill his shoes,
He is the adult with the child still young,
Hiding waiting for the battle to be won,
The rupture in his self may tear him apart,
The holes are so deep and penetrate his heart,
Oh how I wish to sew and mend his pain,
Fix him of his anger, guilt and shame,
And as I watch his struggle and need,
I long to cut the ivy that binds like a weed,
To release him from his terror and hurt,
That’s buried beneath the layers of narcissistic dirt.


David qualified as a Medical Doctor (GMC number 2941565) in 1984 from St. Thomas’ hospital, London. He obtained his GP and family planning certification. In 1999 he left medicine to set up docleaf, a leading Crisis Management and Trauma Psychology Consultancy. He has experience as a hypnotherapist and holds a postgraduate diploma in psychotherapy and counselling from the Centre of Counselling and Psychotherapy Education in London and is currently studying for an advance diploma in executive coaching.

David spends part of his time as an executive coach and running docleaf leadership which works with CEO’s and other C suite leaders in helping them develop and grow.

David has written extensively about limerence, sex and love addiction as well as trauma and PTSD. His interest in romantic relationships led him to set up, a support forum to help those impacted by this debilitating condition.

David is passionate about men’s work and his mission in life is to help people become more conscious by teaching and helping others and continuing his own self-development. He is actively involved in volunteering with the ManKind Project charity which helps men live their lives with more integrity, honesty and taking more personal responsibility.

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