My father was on the British New Year’s honours list for services to Queen and country. He has been awarded a British Empire Medal. It was for his work with the Holocaust Education Trust in promoting racial tolerance and religious harmony.

The irony is my father is pretty judgemental. He dislikes many Eastern Europeans that he says are the cause of many of the problems in the UK (even though he is from Hungary, which last time i checked is in Eastern Europe)

He has never accepted my wife as she was not born Jewish, despite converting into the religion at her instigation. Last year he told me it is one of his biggest hurts, that i chose to marry out of his religion. I have little to do with my religion of birth any more. My mother was little better. She told a Sikh friend off for eating food at our wedding assuming he was a helper and not a guest.

I cant say i feel much pride as i believe his work is more about gaining narcissistic supply rather than an absolute belief in fostering racial harmony and a desire to make the world a more compassionate place.

The work i am doing through the ManKind project has tolerance, diversity and inclusivity as a central theme. For sure it was never modelled growing up.


David qualified as a Medical Doctor (GMC number 2941565) in 1984 from St. Thomas’ hospital, London. He obtained his GP and family planning certification. In 1999 he left medicine to set up docleaf, a leading Crisis Management and Trauma Psychology Consultancy. He has experience as a hypnotherapist and holds a postgraduate diploma in psychotherapy and counselling from the Centre of Counselling and Psychotherapy Education in London and is currently studying for an advance diploma in executive coaching.

David spends part of his time as an executive coach and running docleaf leadership which works with CEO’s and other C suite leaders in helping them develop and grow.

David has written extensively about limerence, sex and love addiction as well as trauma and PTSD. His interest in romantic relationships led him to set up, a support forum to help those impacted by this debilitating condition.

David is passionate about men’s work and his mission in life is to help people become more conscious by teaching and helping others and continuing his own self-development. He is actively involved in volunteering with the ManKind Project charity which helps men live their lives with more integrity, honesty and taking more personal responsibility.

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