Here is a list of books that we found useful when dealing with our limerence:

Relationships, love and limerence:

Love and Limerence – Dorothy Tenov – has to be top of the list for any limerent

Love and Limerence: Harness the Limbicbrain – Dr Lynn Willmott – an updated version of Tenov’s book

Hold me Tight – Sue Johnson

Intimacy and Desire – Dr. David Schnarch

Awaken the passion in your relationship Passionate Marriage – keeping love and intimacy alive in committed relationships Dr. David Schnarch

Addiction to Love, The Art of Changing, Where Love Abides, and Recovery Workbook for Love Addicts and Love Avoidants: Introducing the Ambivalent Love Addict, all by Susan Peabody

Obsessive love – when it hurts too much too let go – Susan Forward

I love you but im not in love with you – Andrew Marshall

Getting the love you want – Harville Hendrix

The book of love – David Delvin the Art of Love -Erich Frohm

The concious heart – Kathlyn and Guy hendrix

Radical honesty and radical parenting – Brad Blanton

Mating in captivity – sex, lies and domestic bliss – Esther Perel

The Erotic mind 5 steps to romantic love – Jack Morin,

Fall in love, stay in love –  Willard Harley

Surviving an affair, Willard Harley

Love busters – Willard Harley

Effective Marriage Counselling – Willard Harley

When your sex drives don’t match  – Sandra Pertot

His needs, Her needs -Willard Harley

A general theory of love – Thomas Lewis

The Eden Project – in search of the magical others – James Hollis

Confusing love with obsession – John Moore

Falling in love – why we choose the lovers we choose

The 5 love languages Gary Chapman

Not just friends – Shirley Glass

Woman who love too much – Robin Norwood

The fantasy bond – Robert Firestone

Misc Books

Boundaries and relationships – Charles Whitfield

Narcicism – Denial of the true self – Alexander Lowen

Creating the capacity for attachment – treating addictions and the alienated self-

Games people play – Eric Behrne

Toxic parents – Susan Forward

Homecoming -the inner child – John Bradshaw

Adult children – the secrets of dysfunctional families – John Friel

 The Willpower Instinct – Kelly McGonigal

The Power of Habit – Charles Duhigg


Facing co-dependence What it is, where it comes from, how it sabotages our lives – Pia Melody

Love addiction – Pia Mellody

Co-dependent no more – Melody Beatie

Choices – Melody Beatie

The intimacy factor – Pia melody

Mid-life crises

The Middle passage, from misery to meaning in midlife – James Hollis

Books for men

Crossing the Soul’s River, A rite of passage for men – William Roberts

Iron John – John Blye

Absent fathers, lost sons – Guy Corneau

The Flying boy – Healing the wounded man – John Lee

The married man’s sex life primer – Athol Kay

Books for women

Running with wolves